“Feel the feeling but don’t become the emotion. Witness it. Allow it. Release it. – Crystal Andrus”
This is probably one of the hardest things most of us have ever had to do. There’s no guide or handbook that was handed to us. We’ve had to figure it out on our own – the hard way sometimes.
Holding on to things can cause a lot of regret, doubt and fear to step in. Sometimes it just takes up too much mental space, and often times can be the reason we feel stuck in a rut.
It’s good to love, and cherish and feel connected to something or someone. It’s normal. But we must also understand how equally important it is to love that thing, thank it for the role it played in our lives and let it go.
Here are some steps that might make the process easier.
1. Change your Mindset
Having the power to let things go begins with the intention to set it free. Understand that everything and everyone that comes into your life serves its purpose and will eventually leave you with valuable lessons to shape the person you are constantly growing into.
2. Allow yourself to feel
You will never really be able to let things go if you haven’t allowed yourself to feel every emotion that comes with it. Acknowledge that you are feeling this way, reflect on the impact it has made on you, and find a healthy way to process those feelings before letting it go. Lean on close friends, family or even consider journaling.
3. Focus on Self-Care
You owe it to yourself to give yourself the same care that you give to others. Simple things like doing your nails as you watch your favourite show or activities that give you a sense of peace and comfort, self-care is an important part of learning to let things go in order to improve certain aspects of our lives.
4. Stay Optimistic
No matter what happens in life, it’s good to remember that everything happens for a reason. All the things from your past have shaped you into the human you are today. Stay positive that the best is yet to come. You might be so close to all the things you want in life. Don’t quit now.
5. Practice Gratitude
Set routines that encourage you to focus on all the things you are grateful for. Being grateful for all the good and the bad is a great way to learn how to make peace with it. It’s a great way to help clear up mental space and improve your overall mood.